The Top Ten Rules of Bringing Up Your Child |
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One size doesn’t fit all and that is most true about parents and their kids as well!
These are just basic guidelines on how to approach parenting. Again, we would like say – there are no rights or wrongs. Parenting is just a beautiful journey. A memory that you will cherish for life. Enjoy. |
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Praise and Rewards
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The best rewards are attention, praise and love. Sweets, treats and toys are not necessary as rewards.
A star chart or a special outing can backup a pattern of good behaviour |
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Consistency |
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Once you have made a rule, don’t change it for the sake of a quiet life or because you are embarrassed. Make sure that everyone that includes your husband and the maids stick to the same rule.
A rule is a rule period!
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Routine |
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Follow a basic order at home and maintain a routine. Set times for waking up, meals, bath and bed as these are the cornerstones of family life. Once you have set a routine then you can be a little flexible. It’s a framework but you don’t have to be rigid. |
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Boundaries |
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Children need to know that there are limits to their behaviour-what is acceptable and what is not. You need to set the rules and tell them what you expect.
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Discipline |
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To maintain the boundaries you need discipline. This means firm and fair control. It may just take a firm tone, authoritative voice to get your point across. Otherwise you can use other techniques and none of them involve punishment.
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Warning |
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There are 2 types of warnings. One tells the child that bath time is coming up or you are ready to lay their meal. The other is a warning for bad behaviour. That gives them the chance to correct their behaviour without any further discipline.
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Explanations |
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A small child can’t understand how you want him to behave unless you tell him. Try the “show and tell “ method to get the message across. Don’t reason it out or make it too complicated just state the obvious. When you are disciplining a child, explain why to them in a way that is appropriate for their age. Ask if they understand the reason why they are being disciplined so that the message hits home.
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Restraint |
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Keep your cool. You are the parent so don’t respond to tantrum by a display of anger or by responding to shouting by shouting back. |
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Responsibility |
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Childhood is about growing up. Allow them and let them do small things that are achievable and boosts their self confidence along with their social and life skills.
Get them involved in family life but make sure your expectations are reasonable. Don’t set them up for failure. |
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Relaxation |
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Quality time is important for everyone, including you. Let your child unwind at bedtime with a story and a hug. Make sure that you, your husband and the other kids have individual time out. |
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